My siblings, my dad's children, came down from Detroit for a while, and all of the family was there for the memorial service.For a couple of months, it seemed like something positive might come out of this horrible pain.Your dad has been defined throughout your whole life through marriage to your mother, as father to you.Imagine how nerve-wracking and terrifying it must be to find yourself alone after many years of marriage, without a touchstone or witness to your life, all while mourning an immense loss, and try to have sympathy for your parent.now it's been close to 7 months since she passed and my dad keeps asking if i will meet this woman and hang out with her. it makes my skin crawl even to think that she has been to our house and to our family cabin up north with my dad.she's started posting photos and things on his facebook page and she recently gave my dad a gift to pass on to my 1-year-old daughter (who she's never met). the last time my dad called me to ask if i would meet her was literally on the 6-month anniversary of my mom's death... i'm worried he will want to include her in thanksgiving festivities, which are already going to be so sad because my mom won't be there. or is it legitimate that i don't want her to be a part of my life?Couples remarry long before they have finished grieving their losses, worked through their issues or developed a healthy single lifestyle. Jeff and Judi Parziale A reader writes: My dad remarried recently to a woman he met four months after my mom's passing.
Especially, who is to know if this relationship will even go anywhere yet? As a grieving widow, I've seen how so many of us handle things differently. I just hope he is doing it in a way that is fair to himself and the woman he is seeing...
my mom passed away from cancer at age 52 in late April 2014.
she was my best friend and it was an awful couple of years seeing her hurting and in so much pain. well, he started 'seeing' someone about 2 months after my mom passed.
When one parent dies and the remaining parent begins dating or marries someone else, it can be very hard for the adult child to accept, no matter how soon after the death it occurs.
Partly that is because you may be feeling a need to remain loyal to your mother and respectful of her memory, and you may be worried that your father will cease to remember and love this irreplaceable person you both have lost.